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I also blame no-fault divorce. Like learning from your past and from experts like me, making a really good choice and never having to deal with divorce. The guy must have realized it was a brutal date ….
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Just a thought if you could use a females perspective. I am a 45 year old woman who has taken a break to finally just be with myself and not in a relationship. It has been really healthy and I learned a lot about myself in the process. I now know what I truly want in a partner and what my dealbreakers are.
I was married once, I have a great kid who has left the nest and I take care of myself. After past relationships and seeing the current dating pool that is available, I find that I want to date less and less. I do miss having that best friend you can cuddle with but dating has become so much work. Many men are dishonest about themselves and their intentions and most of the men in my age bracket seem to be dating women in their 20s and early 30s anyway.
I either attract really young men which I completely avoid because I want a serious relationship or men way too old for me…60s or older. Do men not date in their own age demographic anymore? After reading some of the comments your men posted…it makes me want to curl up on the sofa with my cat and never go out again.
I hear a lot of men complain about women in my City as being fake, gold diggers, materialistic, vain and bitchy…yet the guys I know keep going for these types of women. A lot of men have unrealistic expectations regarding what women should look like —assuming this is based on the plastic surgery industry and media.
Time and again I see really great guys fall for the pretty face over and over. Some of these women are incredibly ignorant, no education, sorry jobs etc…but all of that is overlooked because having some arm candy is fun I guess? I also bring a lot to the table education wise and career wise. Then after men have tried out other women they always come back to me and apologize or say they want another chance.
It seems like my bitchier counterparts go much farther with the nice guys. Do men just like the abuse?? My grandmother said never become the comfy shoe men always fall back into…she was a wise woman. It is frustrating to say the least.
Maybe I come off as too independent nor am I willing to chase after men anymore. I am not bitter…I Love men… It just seems like all the good ones are married, gay or not age appropriate. I am modest and do not dress or act like a sexpot nor am I promiscuous yet guys are all about the sex and want it as soon as the first date…. I am less picky at this age and I am not unreasonable regarding expectations.
Not really sure where to look for good men. Not sure how to take that??? They refer to it as a weakness…. Should I just throw in the towel? It is definitely more challenging dating at 45…it seemed pretty simple in my 20s and 30s…I never had to search for men — there was a plethora of men to choose from. But in my younger years I often moved my boundaries or accepted or ignored little red flags for that butterfly feeling and inevitably I voluntarily left relationships or we remained good friends and went separate ways.
I appreciate that you shared your story with me. There is so much for me to say and I can SO help you! You can register here for free. Please let me help you, ok? Angela, you sound like a very down to earth person. There are good guys out there still. I left a 10 year relationship like almost 3 years ago. I guess you could say that I lost my game.
I used to think that if I stop looking then the right women would come along. After reading you story you made me realize that there are good women out there as well. And remember all of the men out there are not just looking for sex.
Although I do miss it, it means a lot more and feels better sharing it with someone you love and care about. Your words give be all women like us hope. I was too caring too understanding too compassionate was taken advantage of. They always came back, but I never took them back after the one time I did make that mistake to have it only get worse. I have an answer I found by a few good guy friends I told about my delema when I gave up dating to travel, craft, soul search and enjoy friends and family instead.
I have the age issue too 21 year olds and 60 year olds. I have jobless carless ones the sexpots as men the princess men try for me. I want to run home and say nope. He said I need to work on boundary setting up front saying what I want. I had to learn to be more vulnerable and open wich was difficult for an independent lady as myself to truly be vulnerable and open to love yet have and voice boundaries and wants.
After 2 years solace I am ready again to see if all this soul searching helped. Geeee I hope I get it right this time. Now only to find a man as self aware who is his best self too. Angela, I literally could have wrote this. We LOOK like modest, taken women. Grownup men need some positive feedback. Kind of makes me more attracted to those 60 year old judges and attorneys out there.
Feel free to email me with the info. Just from my experience alone, watching hundreds of women from all over the world find love, none — NOT ONE — has been with a man that was much older.
My age difference with my husband is one of the largest differences — 9 years. Someone would only have to say hello to me and she would attack me. Anyways I think society treats a never married 54 yr old bachelor as a bit of a freak. I think you need to be perfect in every way,looks,finances and be highly intelligent and interesting and not everyone can reach those goals.
I was 47 so I know what you mean. That said, you are plain wrong about it never happening. Every day I see people our age finding love, and they are like us perfectly imperfect people. If you could stay open and keep growing and learning, it can happen to you.
I can really relate to the scaredy cat description. I get a lot of compliments and have lots of loving and loyal friends but I just seem to attract abusive, controlling and selfish men. I live in quite a small town where everyone seems to be in a relationship. Hell no, this is a great time to find love! Get started by giving this a read http: Hi Bobbi; Thanks for the blog. Single again at 45, I see that I do need to get out more. I am a 37 year old man.
I have two sons and not one, but two divorces. I have learned a lot about myself and introspection. I have learned a lot about being empathetic and sympathetic and compassionate with women.
I have learned a lot about a lot. I want nothing more than to be best friends with a woman and spend the rest of my life devoted and loyal to her.
I guess I am an extremely handsome man. I am not conceited I am convinced. Females have been telling me I am gorgeous, sexy etc. Which is really confusing because I am short. Any way, my experience has been that every single women out there is a sex pot. Every woman I have dated has ended up naked. If I am alone with a woman for three hours her clothes fall off.
A lot of men, would have some derogatory comments for me, but I want a relationship. I am not preoccupied with vagina and breasts and ass. I have had women that I was genuinely interested in come onto me so hard, so hard, and I know what they are doing. They are throwing themselves at me for one of two reasons: I have actually stopped women and told them in the middle of making out that I like them and I am not going to have sex with them because I want to see them again.
I have gotten to the point where I feel like the stereotypical woman. Literally every single woman I date throws herself at me on the first date. I feel like the woman, meaning, I have no clue if these girls actually like me or if they just want me inside of them.
The same thing happened. I liked this girl a ton. After about the three hour time limit she jumps on me like an octopus, lol. I have not felt a connection like I did with her since my second wife.
She was super enthusiastic about our making out and I knew it was going very quickly towards being naked. This woman is extremely well educated. She has far more education than I do. She has a PhD and teaches at a local university. We decide to have sex and we decided I am going to stay the night. So we had sex a lot. I was completely unaware of the intense withdrawals. I went absolute nuts over the next two weeks and was not even self aware of how buzzard my behavior was and nobody said anything to me.
So after two weeks of being obsessive, possessive, insecure I scared her away. A few days later I ended up in the emergency room because the physical withdrawal symptoms had become so intense I could not function.
That is when all of it was explained to me and…They made me start taking the same exact crap again. As my mind cleared and got back to normal I began realizing how I had acted toward her. I am so devastated with myself. I just, I really felt like after two and a half years of searching I had finally found her and now she will just think of me as the crazy guy.
I have never acted the way I acted in my entire life. My entire brain function was completely different. I literally was not me. She has no reason to believe me or even entertain my explanation. I wish she would. I have never felt like this about someone before.
I am 37 years old two marriages, plenty of dates. This woman has been ignoring me for a month and I still want her. I still want HER. I had another friend who had this dilemma also who has now been single for 20years due to not being able to find the one connection he wanted deep down. I am now 39 and it is looking like I will be spending the remainder of my life solo and actually alone.
Guess I just have to accept it. Yup I can relate as a woman. I want to be ugly sometimes to find someone I know talks to me for me. So now I get men who try to use me for money too. I am very very loving, kind and have so much more to offer than these shallow surfaces that fleet in time.
I have soul and my feelings get hurt like everyone else. I seem to be only good for one thing to alot of men. I hope you find your lifemate.
In all honesty that is mostly my fault, I just thought by waiting I might eventually find someone but not the case! All my friends are married or have married and got divorced, most have kids and seem reasonably happy with their lives. But I think I am at the end of the road now. On dating sites, the only women who get in touch seem to just want a provider and not really care about anything else!
After the attempts at going on a date have hurt my fault, I know I have to get used to it! Another reason I almost think anything will fail before it even begins. I think everything in life is like a disposable society now! My suggestion is to save your money, forget about dating, and get yourself a vacation to a foriegn country, or a resort, far, far away from where you live.
Just enjoy life, as yourself, with yourself, and worry not about what your friends do. If they want to hang out, decline, and find something better to do.
That is what I do…. All of my friends are married, and of my group of friends, I am the oldest. These days, they think it is strange that I decline to hang out with them. But that is a personal problem. I am pretty much at the cusp of Military veteran, run my own business, and live alone, no children. My last ex long term relationship, never married and I split about 6 years ago. The worst part is that we split due to her infidelity. The last date I went on, I was with a woman that kept getting messages on Facebook, kept getting texts, and so forth.
I had nobody messaging me. I had one call, and it was business related. They got the answering service. However, she bluntly told me how it wouldnt work, and that she is going to meet up with another guy, after our get together. I simply saved her the trouble, and left. Since then, I am nust focusing on my life, and what I plan to do, for the next 15 to 20 years, for myself, with no regard for what may happen beyond myself, alone.
However, at this point, I really see no benefit, or even purpose for dating or being in a relationship. Having a child at 46, means retirement beyond Then, consider the fact that to me, I follow a logical paradigm: Beyond that, there is no physically tangible, logical reason for males and females to pair, beyond selfish pride, egocentrism, or even lust.
I really dont abide in any of that. I am and have become one of those that believes that love is an esoteric, paradox that people use, in order to euphemistically categorize their cohabitive utilitarianism, per interdependencies. Thus, logically I am better off left to my own devices. However, nearly impossible to shake biological urges, and in conflict.
So, I almost resent this decision to remain as I am, for the greater benefit. My last Ex was the princess type. Before her was a particularly unambitious woman that was better at spending my money, than to generate her own income very lazy. And before her, was a woman that should have worked, but we had a few ideological ideological differences such as her being a pacifist, and me joining the military … At this point, I even see that I am simply not compatible with many women.
So, I am just resolved in knowing that I am my own best asset, and anything else may be a liability. First, thank you for your service. As I finally had to realize: You know…dating like a grownup. But we jump in anyway, hoping it could work. That results in a lot of relationships that were never meant to be, and ones that never happen but should have. Bad choices are made by all. That creates a crap-load of miscommunication, confusion, disappointment and, again, bad choices.
My point is, you are not incompatible with all women. I see so much of this. So what do you do? I hope you take time reading here to help you understand how women are thinking and feeling. And also try to develop some skills to help you express your real and true self AND help women do the same. This is what dating like a grownup is all about. And it sounds like you really do want to have love. We need guys like you. Like I tell my amazing women here: I SO hope you find your One!
I am completely moving away from dating because i see no point in it, beyond self centered egocentrism. I gave no desire toward retiring beyond 70, thus no children. No children, there is no logical reason to date, aside fulfilling an egotistical and self centered purpose. Personally, i see no point in a relationship, if there is no desire toward procreation. Beyond that it is only for ego. Maybe adopt a child and be a single father. That way no one else can mess up your kid too.
My kids turned out awesome and happy I got to reach my goals and be my best self. If you feel no need for love and only seek to have a child find ways to do it now without a counterpart. Anyhow good luck, I agree to a certain degree, but not completely. Maintaining your own identity while in a relationship requires work, but no one should be too demanding were all imperfect. Just enjoy life on your terms, but respect others needs too. The old traditional ways of getting into a long term relationship are dead as a door nail yet women the world over still believe they work.
As a 42 year old single by choice, I have been proposed to outright by seven American citizen as I am woman, four more I suspected for green cards and not one of them started out with a traditional date. I tried dating and every time I failed to get a second date most we ended up in bed for a one night stand. Its my belief that men who went out on a date and a serious long term relationship became of it the man said just the things she wanted to hear and acted in the way she wanted to see totally masking who he really is, he is known as the liar and men will go on for years and years making his true identity.
When a man acts as he really is on any date the date turns into a horror story for the woman. Men real men should not and do loose or kill off their inner child they keep it alive and healthy. Now that I am older the women I sleep with and hang out with mostly are 10 years and younger than I am. I for a time thought it was best for me to pick a girl under 6 years younger than I am. I put a list of the women I liked the best and used the sex we had as a major deciding factor, I went down the list and found most of them with a bit of detective work and found all of the found ones to be married.
Then I wondered if the women who were just bad in bed but were attractive and seemed to not enjoy sex at all with me or likely anyone just needed the slow romantic approach to get them turned on. Another list was made and I easily found all of them.
Point being is a woman is bad in bed she usually does not like sex. Women are pounded with bogus propaganda about men and relationships, its everywhere magazines, books, internet and the list goes on and on and on all to keep women single or in unhappy relationships so money can be made off them. If women just shut all the propaganda and thought for themselves with no outside help from anyone or anything they will all come up with one answer,.
Want a man to be interested in you for other things other than sex start with sex.. Want a man to love you start with sex Want a man to marry you start with sex Want a man just to notice you skip the date and start with sex. Women want sex even more than men. They are the sexual creatures, they tone their bodies, wear sexually provacative close, they love to flaunt it.
Step two is to arouse her further, seduce her, wrap her in your arms whisper, god I want you now in her ear n squeeze her into you. That will get her mind going balistic, the thrill of what your going to do. Then stop in a lay-by, and make out like teenagers windows steamed up n orally please her, then fondle her, cuddle her, then take her home and ravish her the moment you get in the door, the coffee table, sofa, kitchen table, stairs in the shower, over the kitchen sink.
Then finish her in bed, cuddle up, smoke a fag, run your fingers through her hair, kis her forehead, slow it down, then cuddle up n drift of to sleep in each others arms. Breakfast is a treat of her senses again, play time like teenagers, pillow fights, then let her express herself, encourage her to discover her body and show you what makes her tingle then seduce her slowly then ravish her, drink your coffee n lay talking about how she pleased you and how you pleased her, encourage her to tell you.
Then when your horny as hell, take her to the limit in the places she loved before then add a few more ways. Hi Esther, so I am a 46 year old divorced male with no kids. That said, there are somethings you need to think about… One is to make sure dude is being sincere… For reals, a lot of guys around my age get off on the rush of having a younger girl be into him.
He is in a position of power, and may have certain legal implications he has to consider. Lastly, you know, there are college professor types that consider it a benefit of the job that they can show off the occasional co-ed…. I know its tough at my age trying to find relationships that are sincere and minimal drama… If you think its the real thing and arent going to let yourself get used and abused then sieze the day… life has a whole lot of miserable suckiness to it that if you can pull some happiness out, why not….
During our teens relationships worked because we had no high expectations. I say we should just go with the flow…If the other person loves sex, give it if u willing…if they care it daznt matter whether u slept with them 5 minutes after meeting them or 3 yrs after meeting them…off one cares and they are the one, they overlook all ur flaws.
Men my age, at 28, and with my personality typology, plus of course a few other factors, are finding it difficult to nonexistent for dating. Based on my own research and culmination of statistical data…I have a year left before my eligibility for a any relationship ceases to exist.
So perhaps you could write ab article for guys like us who have limited time left to date? According to most estimates, men are most sought after between ages 27 to And usually for good reason…. Likewise, the same could be said about women… Nevertheless, it is more of a matter of how you present yourself. Hi Bobbi, I definitely see me in a few of the categories.
The 18 year old, scaredy cat and wow me woman. I think predominantly scaredy cat. I am not sure how to change my behaviour and mindset as I do want to. I know what you mean. Even the smallest first steps can make a big difference. Take my advice…it works! Keep learning and keep an open heart. Hi, Im 26 and thinking about dating a 40yo man. Physically,he looks like a mid-thirties guy, but the fact still remains.
I need your honest advice. I currently have no strong ties with him yet, so i can still back-off without bruising. But i need to know if age is as big of a problem as my cousin makes it sound.
My cousin is 32 and married to a 35yo with 2 kids. She tells me to not get into that relationship because of the age difference it is a big deal for her. It will be fine. I think your cousin is correct…. A lot of women feel attracted to men who are much older than they are, but this is the time you should be careful. Meaning, children need to be fed, you need to go to work, he may be too tired to help you out, etc… Then comes the problems with health issues he may have later on….
Will you be able to handle that too? He is in fact 14 years older than you and you need to be thinking about this, just in case it happens…. You would still be young and healthy; he may not. All of this does play a role in how your life will come out. If he is over 40, he might be pressuring you to have kids right away, while if you picked someone your own age, you could wait a few years. Do you have any other types?
I decided for almost a year to stop looking for someone. Recently, I reconnected with a guy who is 10 years older, never been married, and quite successful. I sense he never wanted kids from our casual conversations.
By the way, out first date was when I was 18 and he was How lovely that you have reconnected! The way to approach your question about your kids is to do it head on. Tell him how much you are enjoying him…then how much your children mean to you.
Describe how you like to spend time with them and take care of them. Ask what he things about it. And just let him share his thoughts and feelings. About his not being married — it depends. Has he had long relationships but not been married? More important, what is he looking for now? Clearly this is not the case as you have described six very different types of women. I am sure there is a similiar list of men. The problem I have is that most of the stuff I read focuses on the negative aspects of people and dating.
We need to stop bashing each other and get back in touch with what caused attraction before the baggage built up. Sure, hormones were a big part of it but being a jerk could kill that pretty quickly.
Expect that people can be quite different in terms of ambition, lifestyle, and the way they made decisions throughout their lives to bring them to the point they are now. Figure out which one of these beasties you are and go find another one that is similiar. I am a 51 year old guy and recommend investing in your frame of mind at least as much as we do in our wardrobe.
Stop polarization between the sexes! Hey George…I like your call for positive communication and being your best. I also agree that many focus on the negatives of relations between the sexes. Hi George; I like your mature views and Im nothing like the women that Bobbi describes. Would it sound strange if I said that some women even at 45 years dont know really who they are spiritually.
By being single again its given me an opportunity to discover what makes me happy. Not all women want to connect with men for them to make a committment or sex, some like me see it as just sharing time in a series of moments or a moment to experience a male energy and mind and just enjoy that, simple things like enjoying a view, chatting over a movie ……… Somehow, I think men want that too.
Thanks or your views. What a great blog! I am so glad I found it. I came across your blog doing research for my post about dating men over the age of I have quoted you directly and linked back.
Your blog is great. Im a 25 year old, and loved the articule, the reason why? Ur articule made me realize the types of womens that can bother a grownup man, if u have any tips for me ill honestly apreciatted verry much! Thanks for your comment, Katie.
I was an older guy dating wonderful women 15 years younger. The main thing I can say is we are really no different than at I really loved a girl I was seeing who was 15 years years younger and her fear and analysing and my lack of patience ended what could have been a very good relationship. Just learn to be yourself as trying to be who you think someone wants you to be is a sure fire way to end up in a mess.
Hi Bobbi, this is the first time reading your blog and I really enjoyed this post about dating after I totally identified with the Wow Me Woman! And I have always looked for that guy who will give me butterflies. I found him twice in my life but they never worked or lasted.
I figure, what the heck? Be sure that he makes you feel way more than butterflies, ok? Bobbi, you are so right! I am saddened by your subtle undertones of sexism.
The thing is, every man and every woman is a star, flowing along the vast starry expanse of Life. Placing us into boxes and removing the adventure of discovering the mystery takes away the fun and excitement from dating. It will only make our next dating adventure all that much easier. And the ones who have learned the most will be couples for a long time. They are most vulnerable, and need this time to remember who they are, where they came from, etc.
It is a learned gift. To really feel what one is going through is a learned trait. Try this, walk through a run-down neighborhood in early morning. Slightly gaze at the faces of the homeless.
What are they feeling? What do they really want? Have you read all my articles? Have you watched my webcasts, read my book? Empathy for men is something I teach as a primary principle of dating like a grownup.
Thanks for your thoughtful almost comment. Well Bobbie, what can I say, I am an intelligent, humorous, reasonably attractive and apparently very sexy British woman of Reading your article has made so much sense, I suspected I had got stuck as an 18yr old dating wise, but to see I am also ALL of the above was quite a shock, just having these types confirmed is an eye opener.
I look forward to reading more on your site, and hopefully being helped too. I have a date tomorrow so thank you, I already know more today than I did yesterday: NO need to panic! Be in the moment. Give yourself that, ok? Great Post and So True. Im a single full-time dad and that makes it even harder. Why does that become an issue for women? Just know it may take a little longer.
Be very honest about who you are, what you have to offer her and what will make you happy. I am 39, no kids. Be the best grown up you can be? I do that at work and made it to the top. In the weekend I just want to be a careless 22 year old… 30 something women hate that. Guess who I am dating? Until then, watch your heart. Some day you might want to have love. Well as a soon to be 40 year old man who has never felt love, desire or attraction from a woman his age I seriously doubt that women are even capable of love.
I would love to be proven wrong but so far no dice. And when I do nothing ever happens…except I get used as a source of free drinks or dinner and poof never hear from them again. Story of my freaking life… Where is the woman who will call you back or text you first…no where to be seen around these parts..
What a breathe of fresh air!.. I never expected it to be this hard. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Your comment is so welcome. I am going to share this on my Facebook page also, because you said it so well: Pietto, there are women like this out there.
You can help them by bringing all of that to the date yourself…set the tone and the right women will follow. But when both of you are waiting for the other to start some grownup conversation and show openness…nothing happens. Happy to have you join us!
She is… I am one of them. I am looking, perhaps half-heartedly, but what I have observed is that I may be looking for a unicorn. I feel I fall into all the categories you mentioned. Unfortunately I feel that men over 40 have a hard time being honest to themselves. They do want all the benefits of a committed relationship but when time comes to committ they behave like a 15 year old, have big tantrums and disappear.
I put a lot of thought on these and have concluded: I must be sending the wrong message. I always go on dates with an open mind, willing to go on 2nd and 3rd date to know someone better. I text to thank for the encounter and call to invite for a second date if an event comes up. I always offer to share the bill they never let me and I dress appropriately for my age. I truly believe in respect, sharing and building a life together. Should I color my hair blonde and lose 10 pounds? Gads, I SO understand the frustration of it all.
One thing you said caught me: It means you can make some shifts and quickly improve your results. If you want some help, go to http: OR just go to http: I unfortunately agree to some extent. Bear with us and keep being a good man. There are tons of amazing single women looking for wonderful men as partners. Very uncultured in regards to understanding and relating to not only someone from a different continent, but also a different race. I also live in NY, joined the US Army, accomplished a myriad of things in my life and raised two children alone.
Been through a host of ups and downs, and carry my balls in my bag! Who knows but whatever it is.. The men need to be men and stop hiding. Sure, there are some men who are full of themselves and who are intimidated by a strong woman. Men are attracted to Women. I recommend this article, though I have a feeling you may not get it and it may piss you off. I found this posting rather interesting. I am not a career-driven woman at all.
I chose to work with animals, doing something I love and care about, instead of climbing the corporate ladder or earning the higher paycheck.
I also have absolutely no interest in being a man. Yet, sadly, most of the time I find that I have to be. I do realize that a lot of career women do have a hard time leaving the competitive streak behind in a relationship.
In order for us to be feminine, the masculine energy has to be present in the man. We cannot be soft when he is not strong not just physically.. Perhaps it is a cultural thing. Or perhaps we are more conditioned to desire that type of man growing up.. I know when it came to vanity in both men and women and superficial attributes looks, dress , it certainly was a culture shock for me when I came to the US.
Or perhaps a lot of European women simply do not have a problem admitting that they want a masculine man. And why does he draw women like flies? Perhaps because he appeals to our most primal instincts by possessing two of the major masculine attributes. Most of them will not back down from a fight.
Sadly, he also lacks all the other, positive masculine attributes. Overall, I can completely relate to where DD is coming from. Yet, at the same time, we need to tell men to step up and be men. I think this is also the problem why so many nice, wonderful men are losing in the dating game. They possess all the good, masculine traits, but tend to be more connected to their feminine energy, therefore not attracting women the way they want.
I was in the U. Many men I know are intimidated by strong women. A decent write-up here. Sure…not all women fit neatly into every description you gave.
I have met some really cool women over the years…. We live in an insulated society. Nothing bad with that, it has its perks….. We have had a heartbreak or ache. We have a variety of cool experiences. We should be able to at this point just let a lot of the past go and take life for what it is now. Accept that yes, the game has changed! The part of our lives could be a really cool story……and I know men and women who do want to date, or find that someone to finish up with something very real, and cool at this age should take everything about relationships from their college years, their twenties, and even their thirties and just toss into the trash.
We still have time. Want a husband or wife? We singles at this age and time have gone through so much, did so much…. Keep on sharing with us. Thanks for article, even more interesting and reassuring that it is written by a woman about the problems men face. I am 41, recovering from a serious car accident that has swallowed up the last 2 years of my life and am not yet able to date again. But even before that I was single for years.
Although in the best physical shape of my life, I had no romantic encounters since my most significant relationship ended at Just a handful of dates and some mediocre casual sex. I found myself in my late thirties with a complete lack of focus: I have had many adventures and been to beautiful parts of the world, but my fondest memories are snapshots of domestic bliss, with several partners not at the same time!
I just want to feel that again. I am 45 years old and I wanted to say that I have had similar problems as you do Mark. Also at my age I certainly no longer want to have kids of my own. We hate being wrong so search for confirmation of being right. Human nature and very limiting.
How old are you guys? Where do you live?? Maybe I can help you out. We are out there! Thank you for being so open in this article. Seems like SO many say they were scared by how much they liked me. Thanks for another clue to the quest to find a partner, friend, lover. Hello Bobbi, I am 52 and divorced after 24 years, ugh! I have dated many attractive ladies of before I my wife and I got married.
Of course many Mormons not trying to offend- most are married in this miniature bible belt. Online dating is a feast for women who are good looking. Ready to move, tired of being alone. I understand the being alone sadness. Truth is that there are hundreds of thousand single women where you are, though. Get some help, ok? What can I tell you to help you? Wish you had one for a Wounded Girl! And Im scared silly. I lived the life of an abused woman — verbally, physically, and mentally.
Doing counseling now with a local counselor. That would stay up with me late and clean! To have someone help me and do it without bitching would be amazing. I was married 22 years to someone that I thought was an honorable man, who went from Jeckel to Hyde. The women not interested in giving up an hour or 2 of her limited free time, to someone who is mostly looking for a booty call…not really trying to get to know someone. Being yourself with men is the best way to attract the Right Guy.
Our walls, anger, frustration show up. And we tend to attract the wrong guys. You sound very strong, independent and I bet you can take care of anything that comes your way. I enjoyed your article. Some of us are all out damaged from it.
So where does this become a problem? Well at work and many other aspects of our lives, we become proficient at tasks by repetition, and through trial and error. It time, we can start to predict outcomes from actions we see or take.
This destroys us at our age in dating. We fear failing before we even start dating, we fear the idea of potentially growing old alone, and we overthink. I would classify them, and myself sadly enough, as overly damaged by circumstance.
These red flags set of triggers to either run, or fix. Thanks for your comment. Thank you, also, for your articulate description of what can happen when we let our past experiences mandate our future.
You seem pretty self-aware. YOU have the key to becoming a happy dater who attracts good women, and eventually grownup love. Please take some time to, and let me know your thoughts.
With love and support, Bp. Nice article, it is fun to read about the different types of women you present in the article. I am a career man of 42, no kids, and been single for going on 3 years now. I own my own home, nice cars and custom low-rider. Debt free, great income and very very happy living alone. I rarely feel lonely! Also I feel like I had enough great sex in my younger years that I have little interest in it now. Oh and some good mates to go out with for a beer.
We are proud of our achievements and want to now invest in retiring early to enjoy life. We are very scared that any woman has the power to take it away from us, so we do not date. To be honest I contemplated whether to post your comment.
But I decided that this is truth, and we need to know it. Just like I tell my women, there is nothing as yummy as having a committed, nurturing, loving partner to share your life. But that was then. There are all kinds of ways to protect your finances. Like marrying a woman who makes a good living. Like learning from your past and from experts like me, making a really good choice and never having to deal with divorce.
Being coupled is natural. And btw, some of them are paying alimony too. Hate to hear it. But again, glad you wrote. Thanks for all the input. How do I get a girlfriend? However, his longing for closeness might not be all what it seems. He will pursue her through text and online just for that.
Clarify your relationship status, stat. He might be old-fashioned. Men in their 50s come from a time when it was expected of them to make the first move. If you enjoyed his company, let him know. He wants to get intimate. People over 50 are having multiple partners without using protection, because many are not used to using contraception, such as condoms. He might have health issues. You may come across diabetes, heart problems, erectile dysfunction…You have to ask questions and decide what suits your needs and desires.
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